The Best Apology
DON'T apologize for someone else's feelings.
"I'm sorry you're mad," is not an apology. It's condescending.
DO apologize for your own actions and attitudes.
"I'm sorry I was rude," it's an apology that takes ownership. Be specify about what you did wrong. "I'm sorry for whatever made you mad," it's NOT going to work.
DON'T add an excuse to your apology.
"I'm sorry I was rude, but i really irritated," means you're not really sorry. You feel justified for the way you acted and you expected to be excused. One way to remember this is that when you say "I'm sorry, but..." you're really just a sorry butt.
DO ask for forgiveness when you apologize.
"I'm sorry," on it's own, it's just a statement. It requires no response. "Will you forgive me?" that a humble request that can build a relationship. When you ask your bf/gf to forgive you, wait. Listen. Be prepared for them to say in response, "I need a minute, I'm not there right now." When you're in the wrong, you never owed forgiveness. Be grateful when you receive it.
DON'T expect a reciprocal apology.
Let's say you were in fight. You were both rude and hostile to each other and now you've decided to be the brave one to apology first. Do not apologize expecting our bf/gf to apologize equally. When you recognize you've done something wrong, just own your part of it. The end.
DO attempt to make a repair.
Once you get through the brutal, "I'm sorry, will you forgive me?" it's wise to make step and ask, "Is there anything I can do to make this right?"
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